In the past, it was a common theme for children to be scared of their parents. Now, some parents seem scared of their children. Times have changed from the idea that children should be seen and not heard, to being heard and continually indulged. In today’s society some parents are very much uncomfortable with the idea of setting limits or boundaries for their children and asserting themselves as the person in charge of the family unit.
It is natural to want to attend to your child’s needs and to be a responsive parents, however there has to be a balance. If not, you run the risk of being a “yes, yes – parent” wanting to please your child and struggling to say the word “no”, to their ever growing demands.
Not having a balance with being responsive to your child’s needs, shifts the balance of power within your household. This is a very unsafe position for your child to be in. Try to be assertive with your parental responsibilities. “Let your yes, be yes, and your no, be no”…. and support them in regulating their emotions whenever they do not like the answer you give them. Being firm and consistent gives them no room to negotiate and will reduce the number of tantrums that are displayed at the store or stop the emotional bullying into getting their own way. But not being firm, will reinforce the bad behaviour and in turn teach them that crying and throwing tantrums gets them what they want.
As a parent you want to help your child develop the skills they will need to be successful in school, at work, in a relationship and in interacting with people in general. Help them to be resilient individuals by tolerating their emotional outbursts and helping them to regulate their emotions in a better way. Recognise and empathise with their emotions, but do so in an assertive way: “I know you’re sad because you want some ice cream right now, but you can have some after dinner. Just not right now.”
Your child should understand that there are consequences for bad behaviour. Don’t be afraid to discipline your child. Discipline is not the same as abuse or hurting your child: it can be taking away an item or an activity they love for a set time. You are the adult and your responsibility is to parent your child. You can do this in a loving way even when they are angry, hurting or crying. Doing this will stop the emotional bullying and allow you to gain control back as the person in charge of your family unit.
So far we’ve seen the importance of opening your heart, offering compassion, and setting them free from your heart. It is also important to be specific and intentional with what you’re forgiving them about. Name the hurt and wound that has been inflicted on you and CHOOSE to forgive them for every single one.
Let go of each one, leave nothing out. See it as poison that needs to be drained out of your heart. If you need to make a list, do so. Unforgiveness is poison that infects not just your heart, but your life. So, choose to be intentional with your forgiveness journey.
Make a decision to extend compassion to the person who hurt you, by doing so, it releases them from your heart prison. The wound and hurt you feel is based on an act/comment they did or said. This is not equal to who the person is as an individual. Understanding this will help you in extending compassion and releasing them from your heart prison.
Compassion is the door to forgiveness. Show compassion to the person who hurt you. Doing this has the unique ability to soften and open a heart that is closed.
Compassion doesn’t excuse or minimise what they did, but prepares the way to setting you free, allowing true forgiveness to take place.
The hurt was to your heart. Opening your heart to healing through forgiveness requires your head and your will too, but the first step is to open up your heart.
Communication is a process of sending and receiving information. Humans communicate with others not only face-to-face but also by giving information via the internet, books, newspapers, tradition media and social media. Most people believe that communication is as important as breathing.
Communication is important to human beings because it spreads knowledge and information among people. The advent of the internet not only allows people to have better access to knowledge and information in all fields, but also makes it easier and faster to contact with people around the world.
Communication is the foundation of all human relationship. Relationships are formed when there is enough interaction and communication. Communicating helps people to express their ideas and feelings, and at the same time, helps us to understand emotions and thoughts of the other person. Through communicating we develop affection or hatred towards other people and positive or negative relationships will be created.
Communication plays a vital role in the human life and its importance cannot be underestimated. It is the most significance for us to carry out minimal, potent adjustments within the method in which we converse, spend interest and communicate with others to become in a position to make much more efficient, effective together with substantial discussions together with these all about us all, whether or not it is inside your members of family, associations, professions, training or studying
On March 11, 2020, the World Health Organisation declared a pandemic for the new COVID-19 virus also known as coronavirus. An illness that can affect the lungs and airways. This has significantly affected a large number of people.
Our world since then has been grieving. We are all experiencing an unprecedented health and economic crisis worldwide, and this is affecting our mental health and well being.
The role of counsellors and therapists are now more important than ever. People across the world are coming to terms with mental health impact of the illness, bereavement, isolation, insecurity, changing work and family circumstances, and the general anxiety at such an uncertain time.
Self-isolation and social distancing has also impacted on our mental health. Our therapist have all had additional training around how to manage anxiety; how to cope with working from home and dealing with loneliness and social distancing.